My last post on Forgiveness (click here to read and comment) has created an interesting line of thought. I thought I would follow it up with some more of my own thoughts, that will hopefully provoke thought in you, the reader, as well. In the last blogs comments 1 Cor. 13 was brought up. Specifically verse 5, where it says that love doesn’t keep record of wrong. I think this was a good point to bring up. If we are to truely love those of the world, then we must also act that command out as well. We cannot keep track of wrong. I don’t know what this really means though. Steve said that forgiving is not necessarily forgetting, and I agree with that. Is not forgetting keeping track of that wrong though? Holding it against them? Can we remember what they did to us, but not hold it against them? Instead look at it as a testament to their growth? Maybe they acted wrongly towards us and then later came back asked for forgiveness, we offer it to them, and accept whatever apology is given. We then resume our relationship with them, and remember the wrong, but only because they are not the person that wronged us anymore, they are changed in some way. We can then testify to the growth God has worked out in them. Do you think that is something we should do?
In another circumstance, if someone that we love (because Christ commands us to love all, this could be anyone) wrongs us, in the same way over and over, and continually asks our forgiveness, and we extend it. At some point we have to react to the continual offense, and lack of change, or desire to change. In this case the relationship is abusive. The question I have is this: should we remain in the abusive relationship out of love, or remove ourselves in love until the person truely changes?