Forgiveness: Part 2

My last post on Forgiveness (click here to read and comment) has created an interesting line of thought. I thought I would follow it up with some more of my own thoughts, that will hopefully provoke thought in you, the reader, as well. In the last blogs comments 1 Cor. 13 was brought up. Specifically verse 5, where it says that love doesn’t keep record of wrong. I think this was a good point to bring up. If we are to truely love those of the world, then we must also act that command out as well. We cannot keep track of wrong. I don’t know what this really means though. Steve said that forgiving is not necessarily forgetting, and I agree with that. Is not forgetting keeping track of that wrong though? Holding it against them? Can we remember what they did to us, but not hold it against them? Instead look at it as a testament to their growth? Maybe they acted wrongly towards us and then later came back asked for forgiveness, we offer it to them, and accept whatever apology is given. We then resume our relationship with them, and remember the wrong, but only because they are not the person that wronged us anymore, they are changed in some way. We can then testify to the growth God has worked out in them. Do you think that is something we should do?

In another circumstance, if someone that we love (because Christ commands us to love all, this could be anyone) wrongs us, in the same way over and over, and continually asks our forgiveness, and we extend it. At some point we have to react to the continual offense, and lack of change, or desire to change. In this case the relationship is abusive. The question I have is this: should we remain in the abusive relationship out of love, or remove ourselves in love until the person truely changes?


One thought on “Forgiveness: Part 2

  1. Kyle says:

    I think that forgiveness is a form of acceptance, and forgetting the wrong that was done against you is riddiculous.

    The way I see it, Jesus was all man, and all god. But he obviously was able to forvive anyone. (Someone that was man was able to forgive all)

    And love plays hand in hand with forgiveness. (Jesus was also able to love all) I don’t think love is “liking someone” so much as … realizing the good that the person has in them, and taking it with the bad.

    Love isn’t finding the perfect person, it’s learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

    I forgive people (especially when they ask of it) because I realize that however they wronged me … is a challenge for them. When you sin, you become a slave to sin. the way i see it … it is kind of like … alchoholism. when the person apologizes for his actions (drinking in this case) it is going to be a challenge to overcome it. and they may stumble on the way.

    But … the mere fact that they are taking on this challenge shows there is good in the person, and you can look to that goodness.

    I forgive people because they are … becomming good, or have goodness in them … despite the bad.

    and as far as the … love someone during an abusive relationship … I think that you can still love the person. You should be able to love someone … even if you aren’t … lovers? (and in an abusive relationship I wouldn’t advise … being lovers.)There is obviously more than abuse in that person, but … there is also an obligation to yourself. What can you do for god, if it is being snuffed out by someone else?

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